Have a safety plan.

Domestic abuse is unfortunately one of the most common abuse one can experience. This means that a safety plan needs to be in place to get out of the situation. It may have taken you this long to admit that you are in an abusive situation because you want to believe that it’s not happening to you. You have nothing to be ashamed about. There is no point in trying to keep the peace with the abuser because it can be mentally exhausting and it’d be a cycle you’ll never get out of. Instead, you’ll want to follow this safety plan to get out of an abusive situation and be prepared for the future. There is a downloadable PDF file with additional information as well as a worksheet at the very end of this page. It will outline a safety plan that’s easy to follow. There is also a Resources page with phone numbers and websites that can help you as well. Unfortunately, abusers can be unpredictable and even dangerous, so while this safety plan can’t guarantee your safety, it can help you be more prepared in case there is a violent situation. It’ll also give you options in case there is an emergency.

What you should know.

  1. Don’t accept any kind of abuse from the abuser. This means physically, emotionally, sexually, and even verbally.
  2. Your abuser is trying to control you and your feelings. Remember that only you know your self-worth and that you will get out of this.
  3. It takes a strong person to leave a bad situation, and that makes you a survivor.